TW: this post talks about/alludes to emotional abuse, suicide and sexual assault
- Target a vulnerable girl. Someone shy, already slightly insecure, depressed. Get her to open up to you. Shower her with attention and flattery. Write songs for her. Serenade her. Show her grand gestures of love. Make her feel beautiful and worth loving.
- As soon as she has completely fallen for your trap, lie to her. Start reconnecting with your ex girlfriends and flirting with other girls. Tell her she’s possessive and clingy if she expresses discomfort. Hide your activity and sneak around behind her back. To really make it sting, be just a little careless – enough for her to find some information to be suspicious, but not enough for her to be certain.
- When she asks you about any of these things, lie. Even if you weren’t doing anything wrong. Lie to make her question everything you say. If she sees text messages between you and another girl, delete them and show her your phone again. Make her question her own sanity.
- Always be looking at pictures of other girls. Sometimes people you know, sometimes random models on the internet. Talk about how hot these girls are. Make lewd comments and lust over them openly in front of her. “Like” every photo you do this to. This will condition her to remember your reaction everytime she sees a guy like a picture of an attractive girl. The beauty of this is that you can then tell her she’s being jealous and clingy. And every future guy will say the same because they won’t know this happened.
- Show her pictures. Tell her how hot she would be if she only looked like those girls. If she had bigger breasts. If she worked out and got a little more muscular. If she just gained a little weight. Say it in a lighthearted tone, as if it’s a compliment. Once the seed is planted, there will always be a part of her wondering if she is being compared to others.
- Pressure her to sexually gratify you. Make her feel bad if she doesn’t. Compare her to other girls you’ve been with. Make it seem like what you’re asking for is normal – she’s the anomaly, she’s the frigid one. Guilt her. Manipulate her. If all else fails, remember you’re a lot stronger than her – just hold her down and do your thing.
- When she breaks up with you, make her pay for it. You know she is scared to open up about her depression because she fears she will “infect” the people she loves. So make her think you two are okay. Then all of a sudden, call her up one night and scream and yell and call her every name in the book. Tell her she should be ashamed because now you’re depressed and suicidal and it’s all her fault. Tell her you’re going to self harm and kill yourself and it will be all her fault. You know she can’t hang up the phone, so she stays up making sure you’re okay while you tell her how awful she is under a guise of hurt and self victimization.
- After she finally escapes you, isolate her from all her friends. She has opened up about all her fears and flaws. Use these against her. Make yourself look like the victim. Make sure she has nobody. Make sure the rumors about her keep spreading.
- She’ll find new friends. She’ll move on and meet someone new. No worries, there’s other ways you can try to control her. Send her anonymous messages over text, Facebook, and on her blog. Taunt her and harass her by threatening to talk to her father, sister, or current boyfriend. She’ll block you, but be persistent.
- Last ditch effort – smear her name. Make a fake Facebook and email under her name and try to turn people against her. She will be terrified because she suspects it’s you, but she doesn’t know for sure.
- Over the next couple years, message her anonymously. Say encouraging things to her! Typical stuff like, “Happy New Year! Hope this is the year you finally kill yourself!” or offhand comments about her outfit or what she’s doing. This will make her feel on edge. She will constantly be looking over her shoulder or peeking out of windows, unsure of who’s watching her. She will be paranoid and afraid.
- Eventually you will give up the game, but don’t worry. The damage has been done. Even years later, she will still have these reactions ingrained in her. When she’s in a healthy, happy, consensual relationship she will sporadically remember how it felt when you forced yourself on her, feel a huge wave of dread and need to lock herself in the bathroom crying. She will always be actively fighting the nagging voice in her head saying, if only you looked more like her. If only you were prettier, fitter, curvier… She will always be suspicious of guys motives. She will self destruct and sabotage relationships with people who truly care for her.
Congratulations! After wasting years bitterly holding a grudge, stalking, harrassing, and intimidating her, you’ve done it. Was it worth it?